This is one of the most difficult episodes I have done. I am only doing this because I have either done these things and regretted it later or have experienced someone else doing this and thought they were jerk-faces for doing it. I hope this helps you.
- Don’t take yourself too seriously
- Please put your ego aside a bit for the team
- Don’t scream at your band-mates
- Don’t abuse your band-mates time or take their time for granted
- Expecting your band to practice 3+ times a week and wait months for a paying gigs is unacceptable.
- Be realistic about your expectations of others in the band
- Lead, don’t push
- If you take a job in a band as “musician 2” don’t push to be “musician 1 or 3.” (rhythm guitar – lead guitar)
- If you have a negative gut feeling about joining a certain band, trust that instinct and don’t join.
- Give the band a chance
- Know when to be loyal and when loyalty will cost you.
- Don’t be afraid to try
Great episode! It really made me take an honest look at how I’ve conducted myself as a member or leader of a band.
I think a nice addition to the list on this subject could include – Running the band as a business. Touching on funding, marketing, booking/touring, recording/copywriting, web presence, and on and on.
Again, great episode. Keep em coming. Mike